Pax (funcrunch) wrote,

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A setback and a look ahead

We visited Stern Grove on Saturday as planned. I loved the place and was willing to book it immediately if it was available. boyziggy was more reserved, wanting to look at more places first. Regardless, they weren't able to tell us the availability at the site, so we had to phone back today. Sadly, both dates we asked about, September 18 and 25, are already booked. So it looks like we'll be looking at more places after all. Though we could still change the date, we probably would have to make it a weekday to get Stern Grove in September at this point, and weekdays would make it hard for many guests to attend.

I'm a bit worried about the expense...

Stern Grove was one of the cheaper places we've considered, and they will cost a good $1000 for the site rental and staff fees alone. Catering is likely to cost a mint if we have any significant number of guests, and Ziggy's insistent on doing some sort of webcast. I have savings but they are earmarked for buying a house someday; I don't want to cut too deeply into them. Since we've moved to the city our expenses are higher, so after maxing out my retirement contributions I don't have a whole lot left over each month.

After looking at Stern Grove we sat in a West Portal coffee shop (no extra charge for soymilk, kudos to them) and brainstormed a list of everyone who we might possibly invite. We came up with close to 120 people, but we were both certain that a good number of them would not want to or be able to come. My ex was insistent on having no more than 50 people at my first wedding, and I prefer smaller affairs myself, but I don't want people to feel left out.

We could always elope, but this is Ziggy's first wedding, and I don't want to deny him the happiness of sharing our special day with friends and family. He's thinking that since most of his friends are back East, the webcast would be a good way to have them share the wedding without extra expense of traveling on their part, or catering on ours. Still, I know from experience how quickly these expenses can add up. I really don't know if it is worth it for a middle-class couple to spend upwards of $10,000 for a one-day experience.

Looking to the more immediate future, my birthday's coming up on Feb 3. I'm not doing a joint party at the Zuckershack this year, but I still don't have much room to have people over at my apartment. So I was thinking of doing karaoke at the Mint. I just don't know if anyone will show up based on the last time I tried to get a group going there, so I'm not sure if I should bother to try to reserve a table.

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