And you know what? That's OK. Because frankly, I like what I see in the mirror, and I don't particularly want to change my appearance. Forcing myself into clothing, hairstyles, or accessories that society deems more masculine just doesn't seem worth it when those things aren't what define sex or gender to me. The only parts of my body I'd like to change are ones that are normally seen only by doctors and sex partners.
So at least for now I will remain invisibly trans*, always reading as female and deciding on a person-by-person basis whether or not to insist on gender-neutral pronouns. It's uncomfortable, but I have it a hell of a lot easier than many trans* people, for example those assigned male at birth who read as male but like to wear dresses and makeup. Most of the discomfort I currently deal with (besides my genital dysphoria) is due to perfectly innocent misgendering, not outright harassment. Though there's still the issue of gendered public restrooms... *sigh*